|they're eating out*, and look how happy she is!|
I think oral sex is an incredibly important part of a sexual relationship. It's a way for human beings to connect, to give each other joy. It's a way of showing acceptance and desire for a partner, of saying "this is all about you for a second". It's also a really good way to get yourself jazzed and ready for all the things your appreciative partner is about to do to your generous ass.
|look how much he loves his blow job*!|
If you're someone who doesn't like going down on their partners, I'll admit that a big part of me just wants to say "get over it". I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, and I really want to respect that, but...I think it's time to get over it.
If some trauma in your past makes going down hard to do, work on it with your partner, or with a professional (a therapist, not a prostitute).
If you don't know how, here's a couple of resources (links are heterocentric, I'm afraid, but are worthwhile), or give me a shout and I'll pass on some tips.
|Tip # 47: this is NOT what they mean by "giving head"|
If your partner tends to be on the stinky side and that's a turn-off for you, the Greeks invented this amazing thing called a shower - get in there and give 'em the old spongeroo! The hot water and the slippery soap...how fun is that?!
If there's no good reason for you not going down other than you think it's "gross," then you really do just need to get over it. And also yourself. Your life will be better and you'll thank me, I promise.
Oral sex doesn't have to be a part of all the sex you have, but it should have a part in SOME of it. Oral sex is natural, it's fun and it's now the subject of everyone's favorite new holiday. Happy International Going Down Day, everyone! Enjoy your celebrations!!
*photos for illustrative purposes only. Going to restaurants and hair styling do not actually count as oral sex. I'm sure both gestures would be appreciated, but they are not to be used as substitutes.